Take 5 with ‘Rudy’s Belly of Bees’ Author Shannon Schaefer

Shannon Schaefer Rudy's Belly of Bees Interview

Shy, quiet, timid, reserved—these are just a few of the labels children may be given growing up. For Shannon Schaefer, these labels masked what was really the beginning of her journey living with anxiety. Now fresh out of university, the Guelph-based writer has turned her lived experiences into an educational resource with the release of the illustrated children’s book ‘Rudy’s Belly of Bees,’ which is already helping kids, parents, and teachers around the world. 

Following its November release, Schaefer’s book has been picked up by the likes of Google and Apple Books, Indigo, Walmart, and Amazon, landed on multiple bestsellers lists, and, thanks to its earlier-than-anticipated release, become a welcome Christmas gift for many kids experiencing their own “belly of bees.”

As she continues to reflect on a whirlwind year, I connected with Shannon to get the backstory on her quick transition from journalism graduate to published author and the milestones that have mattered most.

Rudy's Belly of Bees Cover
Cover art for ‘Rudy’s Belly of Bees’ by Shannon Schaefer. “Rudy is me in a lot of ways, but she’s also a lot of other kids. For the actual illustration, my illustrator Becca Marshall got a bunch of baby photos from me and based it off that, except with way curlier hair!” Schaefer shares. (Photo courtesy of Shannon Schaefer)

Tell us about ‘Rudy’s Belly of Bees’ and what inspired you to write it.

We meet the main character, Rudy, on the day of the school relay race, which should be a really fun day, but instead of feeling excited she’s feeling what we call a “belly of bees,” or anxiety. We get to follow Rudy throughout the day as she navigates the new emotions and what they make her act like and feel like, and then also as she starts navigating coping strategies. She’s not overcoming those emotions as if they’re gone forever but learning how to live with them because with anxiety, that is what life can be like. Rudy speaks to and was written from a place of my own experience but also something that I think is so relatable to so many kids.

Referring to anxiety as having a “belly of bees” is a very fitting analogy. Can you share more about how that description came to you?

The way I’ve always explained my anxiety is that I feel like I’m buzzing. Sometimes that’s in ways that make me feel anxious and jittery, but sometimes it’s very internal and my stomach actually feels like it’s rattling. When I thought about that noise and feeling, I started to think about beehives, especially when the queen is in it and they kind of shake. That beehive is exactly what I feel my stomach would look like sometimes. Everyone knows what a bee is, we know the sounds that they make, we know what they do in the hives, so it’s easy to kind of visualize that for children.

What role do you hope ‘Rudy’s Belly of Bees’ plays in the broader conversation about youth mental health?

I feel like we’re getting a lot better, but I think this is a situation where the more people we have presenting different ways of explaining that feeling of a “belly of bees” and different coping strategies, the better. I just definitely wish that something like this was around when I was younger so that there was a character that I could have had to be like, I am like Rudy and I can see how Rudy gets through this and I can mimic that. I am 100 percent a book person and I think we can all find so much safety and so much of ourselves in books sometimes, so I hope for children they can also do that with my book.

We met in journalism school. Did you find that degree helped you with writing and publishing the book, and if so how?

In journalism you have to be very succinct and get your message across quickly and with kids, even though you can elaborate a bit, you actually don’t get that many words either. Most children’s books are originally 700 to 900 words, which when you’re trying to do a full plot, especially describing emotions and introducing coping, it’s not that much to work with! So, I think journalism helped with figuring out, for example, on the first page, what do I need readers to know to understand the rest? I would also say there are similarities in the sources and accountability aspect because I have a minor in psychology, but when my book was getting edited I had a children’s psychologist read it. I thought that, like a journalist, I wouldn’t just go into a community acting like I know everything and start writing about it.

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This is just the beginning for you and ‘Rudy’s Belly of Bees.’ Is there one milestone in particular that you’re especially proud of ending the year?

I think the best milestones are when I’m able to distribute this resource that I am hoping is exactly what some kids are going to need. I had an individual comment on my Instagram that they read it to their class of 30 kids, and that is beyond how many books you sell or lists that you make. The fact that I can maybe help one or two kids avoid some of the things I didn’t get to avoid is very exciting. I hope for any kid they can better understand the classmate next to them or their friend and be able to say, “Hey, I know about this one technique. Do you want to try this mindful breathing exercise?” The stronger your support system, and the more resources within your support system, the better chances you’re going to have success yourself.

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A word on World Mental Health Day

World Mental Health Day 2017

It warms my heart every time I see people coming together to join a conversation that focuses on promoting and supporting the mental health of all people and uplifting those struggling with their personal demons, whatever they may be. That conversation is being re-ignited today (Oct. 10), particularly on my social media platforms, for World Mental Health Day.

This year’s World Mental Health Day theme is mental health in the workplace. While I do not have much experience with mental health in the workplace, I can speak to something I think many of my peers can also relate to – mental health at school. There is no doubt that there is immense pressure on students, particularly in the college/university stream, to be well rounded. By that, I mean acing every grade, being involved in multiple extra-curricular activities, being a leader over here and an active participator over there, working one or more jobs and somehow finding the time in between to take care of yourself. Since the former is mostly a personal and internal obstacle, it often gets neglected.

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Let’s Talk

Bell Let's Talk

I’m tired. It’s 12:30 a.m. as I’m typing the first version of this (surely the first of many.) The funny thing is, if that were the real reason I were so tired, I would feel a lot better because I wouldn’t need to be saying half of the things I’m about to say.

I’m tired of the negative stigmas surrounding mental health. It’s tiring; how there’s such a major difference between not being able to go out because you have the flu and because you’re having a panic attack.

Anyone who knows me well knows how seriously I take these discussions surrounding mental health. That’s because mental illnesses are real – too real – and are constantly affecting those around us; I’m talking about your best friend, who is all too well aware of her body and others’ reactions to it, and your co-worker, who is always leaving the room unannounced as that’s the only way they can contain their ticking time bomb. Take it easy on those people, please. Even today, it remains difficult to talk about mental health as it’s such a sensitive topic that people feel will subject them to ridicule and embarrassment. It’s like trying to have an open conversation when everyone’s holding closed books. Sometimes the only person you can trust is yourself.

You – please don’t forget to take care of yourself, too. If you feel like no one cares, because I know sometimes (often times) it can seem that way, I assure you that I care and I am rooting for you. You are so brave and you CAN get through this and everything you are going through. Believe me. There is light on the other side and you’re closer to it than you think.

Today, January 27, for ‪#‎BellLetsTalk‬ Day, I post this as a reminder to everyone that you are never alone, no matter how small you may feel in the moment, and that it’s time for us to open our books and our hearts. If you’re reading this, I want you to reach out to someone today and remind them that they’re so, so loved. I don’t think we get reminded of that enough. You can only tell so much about a person from the way they present themselves and there will always be so much that we don’t know, even about the people closest to us. So, before you judge a person or any part of their situation, keep that in mind. We are all fighting some type of battle. Despite the popular belief, mental illness is not something that just “goes away,” and it’s not something that can be shoved under a rug and ignored. Not anymore.

Tweet using the hashtag #BellLetsTalk, and if you’re with Bell, send texts and make mobile/long distance calls to your distant cousins for once. While you’re at it, ask them how they’re doing.

I wholeheartedly support initiatives like #BellLetsTalk Day but I know what’s of central importance is keeping the conversation going.

So, let’s talk – not just today, but every day.

Lovelovelove

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